Appreciated? No.

It seems like nothing I do ever gets appreciated or acknowledged, and even if it does, I just get yelled at instead of being thanked. One remark that really bothered me that was said by my husband is "I don't see how hard it is to hold open a bag." He said that as I was trying to hold open a Wal-Mart that was being blown vigorously by the wind. He acted like it was my fault that the bag couldn't be opened, it was the wind. Why is everything always my fault? He never takes credit for all the bad things, he just blames it on me instead. I guess it's easier to blame someone than to accept the blame.

I'm always so nice to him, I do EVERYTHING he tells me to do, even if I don't like it. So, why is that when I am so nice and obey, he still talks to me rudely and yells at me for no reason? I can't possibly be doing anything wrong when obeying. It's possible it's a power trip thing that he has. I just want him to be a little bit nicer and understanding. Hearing a "thank you" and "please" would be a nice change of scenery.

All that my husband seems to do is work, comes home, plays video games, and sleeps... He doesn't even talk or play with his kids. I want that fairy tale marriage that they show on TV shows, but I know that's impossible. I don't know who I am to him, he barely talks to me except to yell at me for SOMETHING. Maybe I'm just the babysitter, maid, and cook. We barely even have sex anymore, it's either him wanting a hand job or blow job but no sex, is there something wrong with me? I always have to beg him to be intimate with me and by the time the begging is done, I'm not interested in the sex anymore. Some like the chase, but not I... I just want to be in love and happily.

I'm constantly asking permission to do things other wives get to do without asking permission, I hate that. He has my debit card so I always have to ask him for money, I'd like to just take my card and say "Hey, I'm going to the store to buy stuff, I'll be back soon" but that would never go down well. When a couple creates a joint account, it's for joint use, is it not? He could just call the bank and ask for a new card since his is broken. That set aside, he always spends so much money on things that are not needed and then when I try to do the same, he yells at me saying that I'm just like my mom and know nothing of saving money. When he says things like that, I always make this face:

Anyways, I think I've done enough complaining, I still feel upset about it all but there is nothing I can do to make it better. Not even marriage counseling would help, that'd actually make things worse. I just want to be his equal, his love, and someone he trusts. I want him to at least ACT like he loves me and his kids. I want him to tell me just one time even, "Good job, honey"... How hard is it to say that? I want him to spend $195 on a family outing instead of stupid window tint (which is where he is at right now).... When will it be my turn?